Everyone always want to know why we dance? Well I'd say it's for the fun of it, but that would be a lie. Dancing for disgusting, old men that are often fat and sometimes smelly is not my idea of fun. On an occasion you get the chance to dance for a hot, young guy but they generally are a**holes and don't have the cash we are really looking for so for the most part I'd say it's the first scenario. The old, fat guy who's eyeing you like a piece of meat, he's got the cash you want.

Your Game Plan to Get a Sugardaddy (SD)

Quality over Quantity approach: I'd be sure to see check his age and correlate it with his annual income and net worth. I'm good at math you see but I major in biology. So I googled the salaries of the best common profession and came with a criteria I like. He has to be aged 42+, as they are capable of earning an income of more than 1 million, assuming he saves half of a million with, he'll have a net worth of 5-10million.

I came across one aged only 43 earns 100k-200k and says he has a net worth of 5-10million. Think it's BS, unless he is talking about fixed assets in his business. In my opinion, the higher the sugar daddy aim, the more confident & comfortable he is with money. xx

First impressions: I'd expect the SD to be highly communicative in his profile description = A long and informative outline. For example, one who can understand to a certain extent what SBs go through when signing up for this. His profile should mention along the lines of empathy and perspective. He should sound like a direct person who knows what he wants and can give, who isn't too shy about it.

Second of all, I would avoid too many letter "I"s in the sentence. "I need" "I want". Someone who dares to use words like - future, happy and together. Words of commitment!

Meeting SD: He should be calm and keep a comfortable distance from you. If he touches your thighs midway and seem too touchy feely in the first half hour.. RED ALERT. He must be very socially inapt or have a very low EQ or in most cases, a big ego. This could mean he isn't as smart in his profession as he says he is or! He is going to treat you like a sex object.

Lastly, to be an SB, I think communication is key.. If I want to meet an SD, I'd polish up my communication skills and GUTS beforehand. Prep yourself before entering the deep end.

You girls must have guts and be direct when discussing about money.. Do not beat around the bush when the topic is brought up. I would give 2 hours for this $$ talk to surface. If it isn't brought up, I would say things like "So how about we exchange ideas on what we want and can give out of this arrangement, for e.g time and money?" Or.. "So how do you propose we start this arrangement that is mutually beneficial" I'd start first, I'll lay out my schedule and tell him how many times I can be certain to meet him and then I will ask him for his budget! If he says to start at a unreasonably low amount first... then move on he isn't worth it.. He should be direct and if he is confident about you after 2 hours, he will be able to give a proper budget!

How confident SD is with you is important.. It'd be so sad if he is the insecure type. So try to avoid men like that! My budget will be 5000 pounds in my mind. That's my plan. And if his budget is crappy, say less than 1000 pounds of my budget, I will move on.

To sleep or not to sleep. By the first hour, you should be able to tell if he is for real......his accessories, google his name, business card, charm. I would suggest not to sleep with the SD on the first date even if you like him a lot. Cos I know I would be very tempted to if I already like him through my mails.. so! I'd make it clear to him I like him a lot. But If he asks to go to his hotel. RED ALERT. Disrespect! A man of age and importance will wait for another date instead of rushing to seal the deal.

If he is who he says he is, he will give you cab money or pay for your air ticket home. I think I would suggest to go to a bar if I travel far away and send me back to my hotel (a hotel which he'd have to arrange for beforehand). He could kiss me if the date goes well in my room but when it comes to sex, I'd put a stop and say we should wait and get to know each other further. Play hard to get!

If I'm in it I'm in it. I will take the gamble of knowing I might not get anything in the end (Like any gf-bf relationship) but of course I will take all the precautions before I enter. I will have a friend on speed dial. I'd have googled his name or see that he possesses a highly successful job and most importantly, charm. I will not do this if I didn't genuinely like the man. Cos this is what separates SBs from p4p escorts. I have been an escort once, I know.

My own definition of an SB:

    SB is willing to absorb the risk of not getting the money monthly.
    SBs won't have sex with a man she doesn't have feelings for.
    SBs will only have sex with a man she has feelings for.
    SBs will not do what she does not want to do.
    SBs will have to learn how to say "NO" to SDs
    SBs must not become complacent and lose focus of her life goals.
    SBs must learn as much from SDs to make full use of his expertise and wisdom.

All in all, If I compare escorting and being a sugar baby..in terms of effort & risks(aka money):

Sugar babies need to put in more effort, bare more risks and burden, if her objective is money and urgency. It's like a contract on a job you're signing up for! If you hate the job, why sign up? Being with an SD is super different from escorting. It's the unpredictability of it. I presume there must be a number of SBs who were cheated of their bodies for the promise of receiving their monthly "settlement"!

But it will be gratifying and rewarding for the effort if you choose the right SD to build your life with.

Escorting is more straightforward, no burden and requires less effort but you're basically a toy to be played with and neglected after. It's not for everyone.

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Here are some sites that you guys might found it "interesting" :

+ badboyclientlist.com : It has blacklist info in blogging style and available to search engine like Google. I don't know who own it (do you?), but it's interesting to know that there are many blacklist sites popping out of nowhere recently.

+ http://www.wix.com/hobbyistdefender/hobbyistdefender: A guy is offering a service to remove records in escort blacklist sites and forums. Wooa!

+ http://thedirty.com: A site that allows anybody to post "dirts" on anyone. Well, i saw a few familiar faces on there. Be careful with whom you gave your info to.

+ http://HideMyHobby.com: Just got a SMS message from this site - saying that they can help guys to get their record off blacklisted sites.

+ http://www.sextraffickingvictims.org/forum/: A forum about trafficking victims. There are some heart-breaking stories told by real victims.

Take care. And Stay safe!

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